Finding The Right Practitioner
Whether you're going to a doctor, psychotherapist, a craniosacral therapist, an energy healer, or an acupuncturist, you'll never get the same results as another client/patient, regardless of your ailment or the practitioner's experience. I've found this across the board with multiple clients/patients and in my own search for the right practitioner.
I'm not saying experience and health issues don't factor in here...on the contrary. I'm just saying you have to resonate with how the practitioner meets you emotionally, energetically, and for many, even spiritually. I have two basic criteria to determine who I put in my referral network when I have a client who needs support in a way beyond my expertise; 1) would I go to this practitioner myself? and 2) is this person within the other prospective client's zip code? On rare occasions, when I don't think the client will be met well by a practitioner in my immediate referral network, I might find them somebody else, but those are not common circumstances.
deally, in my book, a truly great practitioner of the healing arts will be able to meet people from various walks of life and make them feel safe. However, I don't care how great a practitioner somebody is, how long s/he's been practicing, or how many trainings/doctorates there are under his/her belt, s/he will never be able to please every single person who walks through the door, period.
If I know practitioner with eons of experience and skills over myself, but I simply don't resonate with their bedside manner, belief structure, or business practices, s/he's not going to be able to do much for me. That's not to say they're not good at what they do or don't meet their other clients in the right place, it's just not where I want to be met. Whereas there are other practitioners who might not have the background I would seek, but can meet me in such a way that my system opens up.
The stress of a practitioner who makes you feel unsafe, shamed, or unheard affects your physiological state so much that it's unlikely your body can take in the offering they give you, no matter how powerful it might be. I might be walking out with my head down thinking "what's the point, I can't do this and my practitioner doesn't have any faith in me; does he even care about my health?" What good is the elixir of life if it's served to me in a paper Dixie cup that's leaking out the bottom?
Walking out of the office feeling confident and met enables us to fully take in what our practitioner hopes for us and gives us the drive to take better care of ourselves as we see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. One might also make the argument that the positivity of such a send off enables us to manifest better health with this thinking.
That being said, some people thrive off of a gentle approach, and other get inspired or motivated by a firmer, more aggressive send-off. Different strokes for different folks!
In short, when looking for a practitioner, go with your gut, not solely your brain and don't get discouraged if you have to try a few to find the right one. And also realize that not all of a practitioner's abilities to hold space for you will be documented on a website or on paper. Figuring out what we need is a learning process, and in the end, we must be the final judges on what we need and who can provide that for us.